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mother
and baby
 

You are now at the second part of a web-site dealing with  Natural Early Learning describing your child’s development as programmed by nature.

The first part exposed you as a woman and a mother, where you came from and your present world. Click here to go to the first part.

The third part repeats some theory giving some practical hints but the most important is the description of what to do, step by step, age by age. Click here to go to the third part.

The fourth part describes a different way of life, free from the norm. Click here to go to the fourth part.

at the centre of this story is your baby

from way before birth

through early natural learning

to a good life

What your child becomes depends on three main factors

First; there is the biological and genetical child
Second;  there is you
Third; then there is the culture squashing the first two

but it depends mainly on you!

Please read and understand. You can't raise your child according to an instruction manual you buy for $10.

Nor by the advice of the "experts" who write them. No matter how highly paid or lauded.

In parenting from the basic principles and to the petty details including the practical "what to do when" should come from within you. You have it. Believe in yourself.

Our methods apply only to our circumstances and to our baby.

You are now at the beginning of the theoretical part that explains the how things work.

In the next, practical parenting and application of NEL, we describe what we did.

Contents

Introduction
Young mother
Like mother like  ....
The foundations to build upon
 

introduction

Here you will see why the first three years of life are more important than any other ten years in a persons life.

You have already been shown why the first hour of life is has to be good so that all the following hours of life would be good too.

The understanding of these two points is a gift only a few mothers possess.

If you’re busy

and want to keep it simple go to the page Learning Programs , choose a suitable program for your child’s age, and GO !

Please read this:

Don't try to be something you are not, just be grateful for whom you are.

Your Creator, your distant biological past, all the mothers before you and nature have given you all that you need. You are complete as you are. Be proud and love yourself.

You might feel a conflict within you, as on the one hand you have been told what to do and what to believe in regarding children and life, and on the other hand you know deep down that there is more. This is your opportunity to to find out.

be strong, be yourself

young mother

This is addressed to you. You still hold dreams, you see a future without horizons. Don't lose your vision. For your child's sake. And that of mankind.

Others will try to sell their "reality" to you. They come with their 'musts' and 'have tos'. You don't have to!

Don't give up on who you are and in your dream.

Why only the young mother?

Not only the young mother. All mothers.

But as we get more set in our ways, as mothers tend to with the arrival of more babies, we have difficulties in adopting new ideas, attitudes and habits.

If you feel fresh and strong enough, do not hesitate, change your life and that of your children. Even a little bit can make a big change down the road.

its up to you

like mother,

 like ....
yes, it's true

Many years ago when working, researching, thinking, planning and then actually applying the NEL program we suddenly realized that the one greatest single contributor is the mother.

The mother is to the baby like the soil to a seed.

She is also the rain, the sun, the heat and the cold.

If the seed is to develop to some of its full potential the nurturing mother must apply her own inner potential.

Upon self-examination Rivka, the mother in our case, concluded that she had to shed some of her habits, work on her attitudes and general behavior.

Now years later we can see how important the mothers skills are.

The mothers behavior, emotional maturity, knowledge, attitude, personality, intelligence etc are as if passed on to the child.

it begins with the mother

the foundations
 to build upon

The real foundations to build upon are within your heart and within your ancient past. Your intellectual mind is only a tool.

- Your love, your enthusiasm, the thrill of discovery and the warm feeling of growing up together. Yes, you will grow too.

- Your inner knowledge of your ancient past as a woman and a mother tells you that what you're doing is right.

- Your search for moral values and for what is good. For your baby and for mankind.

- The Spiritual togetherness with your child, the gratitude for this great gift and responsibility that Kodesh Barchu (The Holy One, blessed be He) gave you.

These are some of your foundations to build upon. From these you give to your child.

Of course it's important, even necessary to understand some of the theory and principles involved and to be a good and efficient mother on the practical side.

But these are only the building blocks supported by the foundations. A great beautiful building standing on poor foundations will eventually come thumbing down.

If you're 'smart' or not, have a degree or not, don't worry. These are not foundations nor building blocks. Intelligence is just a tool to work with. As a mother you have all that's needed.

believe in yourself
 

You two are a team, working together

The theoretical part is big and goes into detail whilst the practical side, the instruction manual, is brief.

This is because we do not want to repeat the common mistake of telling you what to do.

The important thing is for you to understand how a child learns, how all children learn. What takes place within the child and at what stage. Also what are the things you can do.

Then you just go ahead and do according to your own personal circumstances and primarily according to your baby.

Each baby is different. For sure. Each mother is different. At least should be. Each each family-situation is unique.

So each mother should have an approach that is unique to her needs. That's why it's important that she understands what NEL is.

Modern parents have been bombarded with 'instructions' on how to raise their children for the past two or three generations.

No-one seems to take notice that many of these instructions change over time, and as a rule run against research findings on what is good for a child.

Even the famous Dr Spock, a guru if there ever was one, admitted that he had been wrong in some of his basic advice to parents on childrearing.

build on the natural foundations within you
build on NEL

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the greatest gift
a mother can give
to her child
is the ability
to love herself

Yaffa Gaash

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if you play the violin
with love
your baby will probably too

your baby's launchpad
will be at
your level
 

what you are
will be
within your baby




 

during the first
three years of life

your child will develop crucial intellectual, emotional
and social
abilities

she will learn
to give and to
accept love,
to be confident
and secure,
to show empathy,
to be curious
and persistent

these abilities
will enable
your child to learn,
to relate well
to others
and lead a happy
and productive life according to
her own free will

that is,
if you give her
the opportunity

Young Mother

Only you are qualified
to make
the best decisions
for your baby.

Learn and listen
to others but
trust only in yourself
and in your instincts

points to ponder

you have both been duped to think that what everyone else is doing is the greatest and
the only way to go

young mother
if you have the strength see below
what is the best
that you can give
your baby

from way back
mothers knew instinctively
how to care
for their baby
today they don't

the natural mother
as she once was
is not needed any more
by our present way of life

so many mothers know
in their hearts
that what they do
is not the best for their children

we are against
mothers being manipulated
to cheat themselves
from being mothers

your baby is being denied the right to develop
to full potential

your childs rights
to a full life
is being compromised
by social and financial interests

your child is being robbed of its future.

present daycare
and school systems
dwarf your child's emotional and intellectual growth

what are your baby's rights?

we tend to
take things for granted but if we stop and check we'll be in for a big surprise

fast-food is a killer
for sure

even the famous
food-triangle can kill

your milk is for
your baby

cowmilk is for
cowbabies

formula is a
money making tool
 
the user is a fool

when you
add your thoughts
your knowledge
you give

does school kill
the love
for learning?

Yes!

education is
conditioning

education Is
not learning

help your child
learn