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You are now at the practical action, part three, of a web-site dealing with  Natural Early Learning.

The first part exposed you as a woman and a mother, where you came from and your present world. Click here to go to the first part.

The second part described your child’s development as programmed by nature. Click here to go to the second part.

Here on pages 3-1.1 to 3-1.5 we repeat some theory and give some practical hints.

The most important part is the description of what to do in practical terms, step by step, age by age, starting on page 3-2.1

The fourth part describes a different way of life, free from the norm. Click here to go to the fourth part.
 

A frequently asked question;
"Who has planned and set up the NEL program and has it been tested?"

The answer;
Research has shown that every child is "wired to learn" at birth. The baby has an immense capacity and need to learn and further develop especially during the first three years of life.

During thousands of generations this, what is here called Natural Early Learning process was ensured through natural stimulation.

Today's children lack most of this natural stimulation in our modern and largely artificial culture.

The NEL program as presented on these pages is an attempt to retain the child's original mental learning potential through meaningful natural stimulation.

Go to page SSS for more.

the practical NEL program

now that you know it all, do it all!
but let your heart lead 

this is no handbook to early parenting
any advice is in the form of suggestions
 

Contents

Introduction
The NEL way
If it seems a bit bewildering, relax
 

(There are many other programs and philosophies on how to apply 'pre-school' and 'early intervention' techniques for educating the youngest. But we have not found one that considers the child’s natural inborn abilities and the central role of the mother. Go to page SSS for more.)  

But as each child is unique, so is each mother and each family-situation. The mother has to adjust these methods to what she sees as being the best for her situation and beliefs.  

The greatest conflict will be with the cultural demands surrounding you. 

Once again we repeat; trust only in yourself, in you a as woman and as a mother, there is no one better qualified than you! No one, no matter how established is the tradition nor what title stares you in the face, yours is older, yours is stronger.  

introduction 

You now have a picture in your mind about the distant past you came from, yourself as a woman, a mother, as you once were and still are.

Now you also know the damage we, our culture, have done to our planet and to ourselves and to our children.

Can we reverse all this? Undo it? No. So what to do?

Know who you are and where you come from and then pass this knowledge from the past to your child.

And you know that if nature is allowed to run its gentle course, your baby will develop, with you as a guardian, to potentials beyond belief. You've come a long way.

On pages 3-1.1 to 3-1.4 we discuss the preparation and the on pages 3-2.1 to 3-2.13 the what-to-do, the practical points that you really know, points that come to you instinctively.

Through social pressure and influence they often escape your attention so this page is just a reminder of what you already know.


A struggle for freedom in parenting and education

Freedom from what?

Umpteen books have been written on parenting over the last 100 years. New ideas become popular, money is being made on them (and on the children) only to be replaced by the latest fad. And more money is made.

No one seems to be surprised that the social norms and behavior, morals and academic performance, mental wellbeing and personal appreciation are on the decline in the Western society.

Our system of 'education' has been attacked from all directions, countless proofs of its limiting or even damaging influence has been presented.

Yet no concrete action or change has taken place. After our protests and shouting we went home feeling that we had done our bit. Exercised our rights. What could be fairer than that? Fools we are.

We have been duped to quietly accept and not to question any the deeper. Moreover we have been made to feel that the situation is somehow of our own making, we are the guilty party and should not complain.

When the society needs the woman in the workforce it is made attractive for her, popular, the thing to do, the in-thing. The child is out. The easiest commodity to manipulate.

The society provides places where to place the children. Like it provides places for cars. Early control. All is well. Both the woman and the child are manipulated.

The woman-at-home is frowned upon; generally she's not got what it takes, not worth anything, a failure. How shortsighted we are.

Breast feeding, what? No modern mother would stoop so low. "Indecent!" some exclaim. In some civilized countries a woman might be arrested for child-abuse if she breastfeeds her baby too long. True.

Her sister, glamorous and capable in her career is the ideal. The baby parked in a facility. Full service provided by trained mech. … sorry, care-takers and -?givers.

But gradually even governments are shaken by the realization that modern parenting, child-care and their educational systems produce citizens of low intellectual and unstable emotional standards. The foundations are shaking.

The greed and corruption part is hidden as efficiently as possible. The climb towards power and influence over others is seen as a proof of success, something to train for, invest in, something worthwhile. Poor us.

Those in the in, see cracks appear in the plaster, things are crumbling and silent fear spreads, fear that the walls may be about to tumble down. This has happen several times in the history of civilization. Man is collapsing as if from within.

Psychologists, sociologists and umpteen of other '-ists are trained, by the system, for the system, to do their research, publish reports and new ideas shaking the governments for more funding. It's big business. The $ sign is everywhere. But where are the real results? More studies needed.

Who is really paying for all this? The child and the next generation.

Some people are confused and an increasing number of families are seeking an escape through educating their children at home.

Many books have been published on this, doing school at home and even more many web-sites have sprung up recently giving good advice, advice on how to bring school into the home. This, home education, is not the real answer.

please love your child in real terms
not just on cloud nine

The only real answer

Only now are we beginning to recognize an age-old truth, that the 0-3 age is the most vital time for learning. Some awareness is stirred by a few books and some articles that highlight this point.

Homeschooling as a rule does not take this into account and much is lost.

Toy manufacturers, music-makers and others are exploiting the growing 0-3 awareness to their financial benefit without concern for the real issues involved. Much ($) is gained. Much (child) is lost.

Many parents fall into this trap and once they have purchased a few 'early development' toys or other such helps they feel that now their children's early education is taken care of. Far from it.

So it’s mainly up to the parents, the 'free' mother that is, to be aware, to find out, learn herself and then to help her baby learn, the natural way. We hope these pages will help.

You will find here ideas, the best of the pick we think, from various sources, books and homeschooling sites mixed with our own research and practical hands-on results.

Now remember that every situation is unique and that there is no-one like you and your baby.

Another one to remember, homeschooling is just that, bringing the school into your home. Nothing 0-3 or natural about that.

The real answer lies in the recognition of the only way a child truly learns. The way creation intended it, the way nature has programmed your baby to learn.
 

the NEL way

is Natural Early Learning the only real answer?
YES !
and no

For your child, yes. For the society, no. Why?

Because you as an individual, perhaps with a few others, can apply the 'natural option' of early learning for the benefit of your child.

The society on the other hand is rigid, self-serving and very much a prisoner of itself. How could its principles and the interests of its institutions be put aside?

As (enthusiastic) consumers we (being well-trained) produce (efficiently) the latest (the-only-gratification) consumables that we (enthusiastically) consume.

Like a hamster running in it's wheel we work without end in order to buy as we've been conditioned to do.

The faster the turnover the greater the profits. Run friends, run.

Think of the educational establishment, the social order and priorities, the millions of jobs, the popular assumption that a woman is only fulfilled when having a good career; the necessity of all these and other principles and interests would be questioned.

These make up the backbone of our social, our cultural structure, and these, the principles and interests, are the tools our politicians and bureaucrats use to manipulate us with.

Think of the positions of power, the big guys, the corruption and the moneys involved.

Think of the contradictions involved between the power of control by the society and the power of free thought by your child.

And then visualize the affect of the system loosing control over how the young are to think and loosing their grip and control over the man on the street.

Social chaos or a gradual return to sanity? If there would be a few moral and intellectual 'giants' perhaps they could make a difference our grand-grand children. It's up to you.

think
of your child and of the world

think
and only then do

Natural Early Learning begins before birth
continuing throughout life
but only you can start it

 if it seems a bit bewildering
relax

You want a short-cut? OK. Many mothers we deal with have begun the NEL program gradually, an idea at a time.

If you try to do all at once, everything meticulously as instructed, run before you can walk, you just might stumble.

From the total contents below choose one point you feel comfortable with, have a look and begin to apply it. If it feels good and worthwhile, and you can fit it into your schedule, add another point. Enjoy.

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a mother can give
to her child
is the ability
to love herself

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if you play the violin
with love
your baby will probably too

your baby's launchpad
will be at
your level
 

what you are
will be
within your baby




 

during the first
three years of life

your child will develop crucial intellectual, emotional
and social
abilities

she will learn
to give and to
accept love,
to be confident
and secure,
to show empathy,
to be curious
and persistent

these abilities
will enable
your child to learn,
to relate well
to others
and lead a happy
and productive life according to
her own free will

that is,
if you give her
the opportunity

Young Mother

Only you are qualified
to make
the best decisions
for your baby.

Learn and listen
to others but
trust only in yourself
and in your instincts

points to ponder

you have both been duped to think that what everyone else is doing is the greatest and
the only way to go

young mother
if you have the strength see below
what is the best
that you can give
your baby

from way back
mothers knew instinctively
how to care
for their baby
today they don't

the natural mother
as she once was
is not needed any more
by our present way of life

so many mothers know
in their hearts
that what they do
is not the best for their children

we are against
mothers being manipulated
to cheat themselves
from being mothers

your baby is being denied the right to develop
to full potential

your childs rights
to a full life
is being compromised
by social and financial interests

your child is being robbed of its future.

present daycare
and school systems
dwarf your child's emotional and intellectual growth

what are your baby's rights?

we tend to
take things for granted but if we stop and check we'll be in for a big surprise

fast-food is a killer
for sure

even the famous
food-triangle can kill

your milk is for
your baby

cowmilk is for
cowbabies

formula is a
money making tool
 
the user is a fool

when you
add your thoughts
your knowledge
you give

does school kill
the love
for learning?

Yes!

education is
conditioning

education Is
not learning

help your child
learn