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a life free from the norm

 

You are now at the the fourth part of a web-site dealing with  Natural Early Learning describing a different way of life, free from the norm.

The first part exposed you as a woman and a mother, where you came from and your present world. Click here to go to the first part.

The second part described your child’s development as programmed by nature. Click here to go to the second part.

The third part repeats some theory giving some practical hints but the most important is the description of what to do, step by step, age by age. Click here to go to the third part.

 

Contents

Introduction
Begin the future
The future is new
The future begins now
Duties of a wife
The great compromise

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Lifestyle changes such as avoiding processed foods, eating fruits and vegetables, engaging in regular physical exercise and even pursuing daily brain exercises

 

introduction

 

The circle is closing.

In the first three parts of this book the child, and you too, where discussed as being essentially natural beings.

The Earth and you interact, at least that is what natural development calls for. But artificial development forced on by social demands have hijacked you and your baby into a world of

In the next parts we looked into the theory and the practical aspects on how to help retain the child's potential and prevent the destruction of the individuality of the child.

Now in this last, fourth part, we discuss the goals possible to aim for. In spite of all the rhetoric and undisputable facts a compromise must be found between the two extremes, the once-pristine natural child developing in harmony with the environment and the, G-d forbid, mortally sick modern society.  

Once, a very long time ago, we humans had just one lifestyle option, to stay alive, to survive.

Today there is a bewildering array of options on how to live our lives. Yet we are knowingly killing ourselves by choosing the wrong options. In a way the situation is still much the same; we are fighting for our survival as a species.

When making those choices and possible changes we also change the lives of our children. It's worth spending a few minutes choosing how our children will live.

"How to live" is basically a combination of habits and wants.

Habits are hard to break, our lifestyle is really a collection of acquired habits, most of them formed at a very young age. Little did we, or our parents, know that the early ways of doing things, values and tastes would stay with us for life. It's like we would have been dressed in a straightjacket that strictly controlled our movements and freedom. As others are dressed in similar jackets we see the situation as normal. Wearing this jacket is a norm that we are ready to defend.

Wants refers to "I want this or I want that". Most of our decisions are based on how we feel about something, not what we know. The emotional wins over reason.

Here we discuss what life style options we have in general and specifically for our children. There are many options, some idealistic, some Utopian, others popular whilst most of us submit to the lifestyle of our social environment.

We'll look into ways of changing our habits and how to begin a new way of life.

Its up to you

 

begin the future

Goethe, the great poet and dramatist from the 1800's wrote;

"Whatever you can dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power and magic in it. Begin it now."

the rest of my life begins today

The man rushing along the sidewalk with so many others suddenly stopped in his tracks. He was on his way to grab his usual "without onions" from the Quick-Sam outlet just around the corner.

Others kept on going as if blindly. A few people grunted their annoyance as they bumped into him.

The noise of the traffic, car horns, radios blaring from the nearby shops, the pounding of feet that a few moments ago had shared the mans senses with the mixture of anxiety of deadlines and quotas, had also suddenly vanished from the mans conscious realm.

His eyes looked far away as if in welcoming wonder, a warm feeling of a gently caressing, even tickling, exciting sensation came over him. He felt incredibly strong, boldness mixed with determination and as if still in unrestrained youth, at the threshold of the future, of life. He knew he had it in him. He'd always had it.

The man led a normal life of an office manager. Still relatively young he had done well and was looking forward to another promotion at the end of the year.

His wife had given him two kids and he really would have liked to spend more time, or is it "quality time", with them. He really didn't know the difference. With all the three. Mirri had said once or twice "Why don't we go away?" He'd never stopped to think that one out either.

He spent a lot of time in the office and his coworkers and those under him saw him as hardworking, a bit stressed (who isn't) and a go-getter. But no-one saw his dreams. They were really only flashes. That was all he could afford, he told himself.

He flashed away from reality, he avoided the word escaped, to a life simple and without the constant need to get things done. Bit by bit he had built his own wonderland and being fairly smart he had managed to make it practical. Workable, as he called it. Somehow, he flashed, it could be done, somewhere. Someday. This added color, he thought, and spice. Someday.

It was good to have a dream to which to flash to. He was good at discipline he thought. "It's best not to have the flashes rock reality" and he kept them at bay.

A few weeks ago he had seen Goethe's words, "Begin it now"  in an ad on yet another dieting formula. He really didn't think about it until a couple of days ago when the same slim-spin people had their ad on TV, this one with a catchy jingle around the words "Begin it now".

He had laughed at the notion of the great Goethe's quotation being used for pushing another formula. Who, he reasoned, would be getting the royalties? The bones? Must tell it at the office. He didn't.

The last few mornings he had woken up a bit perturbed, questioning but not knowing what. Something was going on. Feeling uneasy at the office the usual flash did not work as before. 

He was late, nothing unusual, getting out for lunch and rushed for his usual. He knew Sam would have it ready even though Sam wasn't his real name. All the franchise holders of the Quick-Sam's were called Sam.

Should he change from his "Fresh-fry" without onions to the new "All-vegetable" that came with an assortment of dressings?

He was in the middle of imagining the dressings dripping and being messy "Better stay with the without onions ..... " when he suddenly stopped.

He was as if a man split in two. The one making his way "up" the ladder in the office debating the pros and cons of his "Fresh-fry" and the other, as if waiting for him at the end of the flash.

As he stood there he saw the flash shining, not anymore a dream but his reality, his very own. The magic was his to hold. He could do it. Then he saw his wife, yes Mirri would recognize his flash, that's what she had meant when she said "Why don't we go away?" he was sure.

"Quality time"? What a joke. No, he would spend his life with his children, now that's time, that's quality life. He saw it all now.

He turned around, walked with a purpose he hadn't felt since the teens to the office. He left a notice on his desk "Due to personal reasons .... ' it was true, and went home.

"Mirri", he said as she entered later in the afternoon, "we will begin now".

 

Back to the past of old reality

How many of us can understand, connect with the above piece? But how many would be bold enough to make the flash become a new reality.

Freedom is something we are taught to fear. Belonging is security we are told. Socialization is protection. To be in harbor is safe. Behind a strong wall of stones called the breakwater.

Mark Twain wrote;

"Twenty years from now
you will be more disappointed
by the things you didn't do
than by the ones you did do.
So throw off the bowlines,
sail away from the safe harbor.
Catch the trade winds in your sails.
Explore. Dream. Discover."

the rest of my life begins today

 

 

the future is new

 

 

your child's
future begins now
 

You are now standing at the threshold of the future of your child, and that of the world. You have many choices for a way of life for your baby.

Most mothers follow the Norm. Only a very few have the courage to build a life that originates from within themselves.

From all that you know and value, all the utopias dreamed up by men and of all the books written, from these you can chose.

Somehow scary, is it not? All that responsibility? Do you have courage? The guts?

The simplest way is to escape into what everyone else is doing. Follow the crowd. Stay in the institution. Remain normal. No questions. Is that the true you?

You might feel the stir within you, to be free, the urge to conquer and to change, to become one of the greats and make a difference. If so, this is your opportunity. And your child's. Perhaps the only one ever.
 

Different from what?

From the life around you. From the Norm. From having to do what is expected of you, instead doing what you ant and know is good for you and your baby.

Lets look at an example

Rivka has been following a healthy and natural diet for a few years. Her diet consists mainly of fruit, some aboveground vegetables and a little of grain products.

Most of this is consumed in a raw form or as soups. Sometimes the food is steamed. She also eats occasionally frozen or canned fish.

She avoids all processed foods including bread, soft drinks and all kinds of oils and fats except for fish oil.

Rivka's body and digestive system has become adjusted to this natural and healthy way of eating. When, for whatever reason, Rivka eats junk, as she calls it, she gets stomach upsets, aches in her joints and other unpleasant reactions.

When Rivka is at a wedding or some other function where she is expected to eat "normal" food she has some choices.

She could eat and feel the negative consequences as her system reacts to the "poisons" or then just nibble at some fruit possibly available. Or she could simply not eat anything or even ignore the invitation.

The principle within the example

No matter in what area, food, behavior, values, general lifestyle etc., a NEL learned child will differ from the Norm.

The life of this child will be different from those around her. She too will have some options. You are the one to give her those options. Or then not to.

To participate and become "normal" or to stay on the fringes? Of course she could go radical and move to that lone island that we all sometimes dream of.

Can you do the perfect job, give your child all that is discussed on this site? Of course not.

Will you neglect your child and be led by your immediate personal wants? Of course not.

So there must be a compromise. But where to draw the line?

it's up to you to be different

 

 

 

 

the non-stop
duties of a wife
makes her the fall-guy

A fall-guy is the one whom is given the blame when things go wrong, in the case of a wife she carries  burdens

Responsibilities

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Expectations

 

the great compromise
kills dreams and life

 

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your baby will probably too

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during the first
three years of life

your child will develop crucial intellectual, emotional
and social
abilities

she will learn
to give and to
accept love,
to be confident
and secure,
to show empathy,
to be curious
and persistent

these abilities
will enable
your child to learn,
to relate well
to others
and lead a happy
and productive life according to
her own free will

that is,
if you give her
the opportunity

Young Mother

Only you are qualified
to make
the best decisions
for your baby.

Learn and listen
to others but
trust only in yourself
and in your instincts

points to ponder

you have both been duped to think that what everyone else is doing is the greatest and
the only way to go

young mother
if you have the strength see below
what is the best
that you can give
your baby

from way back
mothers knew instinctively
how to care
for their baby
today they don't

the natural mother
as she once was
is not needed any more
by our present way of life

so many mothers know
in their hearts
that what they do
is not the best for their children

we are against
mothers being manipulated
to cheat themselves
from being mothers

your baby is being denied the right to develop
to full potential

your childs rights
to a full life
is being compromised
by social and financial interests

your child is being robbed of its future.

present daycare
and school systems
dwarf your child's emotional and intellectual growth

what are your baby's rights?

we tend to
take things for granted but if we stop and check we'll be in for a big surprise

fast-food is a killer
for sure

even the famous
food-triangle can kill

your milk is for
your baby

cowmilk is for
cowbabies

formula is a
money making tool
 
the user is a fool

when you
add your thoughts
your knowledge
you give

does school kill
the love
for learning?

Yes!

education is
conditioning

education Is
not learning

help your child
learn